I am not sure when and where I read this sentence. But it sounds so true to me. I have been on this site for like a month. Met one person, been talking to a few over the phone. Interesting thing is one of the first a few questions is always whether I have dated American guys. My answer was that I only dated one Chinese guy. The rest are white guys. Then the next question has always been how the sex life is compared to the sex with Chinese guy. Remember one of my best friends in Canada asked me a similar question 3 years ago. I told her to find a white guy and try for herself. Then we giggled and laughed the whole day. But honestly, myself gets along better with American guys because of my personality: very straightforward, simple, always say what I want directly. Most of Chinese guys in North America become so..... how should I put it without being offensive. They become over defensive and selfish, narrow minded (all they think is sex), not deep enough to carry on conversations. American guys are polite, caring and more considerate but very sensitive and easily over react. All of us are trying so hard to look for the Miss.right or Mr.right. some of us are not being honest and clear to ourselves about what we are and what we are really looking for. Then It would be a lot easier or I would say clear target. Including myself, sometimes I am not really certain about what I want. But when I look back the failed relationships I had. I did learn what kind relationship is a lasting healthy relationship. In a relationship, we have to have the mutual respect, communication, doing things for each other without expectations, honest, APPRECIATE YOURSELF AND YOUR PARTNER (remember to say thank you and love you often), admit your mistakes and say sorry, be responsible no matter who our partner is. Keep in this mind, accepting a person means accept him as a package including the good, bad sides, his concept about life ---- his life style and most important accept his family because they come before us. I am not trying to educate or lecture anyone although it may sound so. Friends keep asking me when I am getting married and have children. I keep telling them that I do not know. and not sure whether I want to. But I know deep inside me, I desire unconditional love from someone I love who loves me. Someone that I can give all my love to, willing to do anything for him. It will come someday as long as we have hope. But dating is fun too :) good luck buddies. wish you find your the other part soon |
